It’s Not A Contest

First the quote:

Stop comparing where you’re at with where everyone else is. It doesn’t move you farther ahead, improve your situation, or help you find peace. It just feeds your shame, fuels your feelings of inadequacy, and ultimately, it keeps you stuck. The reality is that there is no one correct path in life. Everyone has their own unique journey. A path that’s right for someone else won’t necessarily be a path that’s right for you. And that’s okay. Your journey isn’t right or wrong, or good or bad. It’s just different. Your life isn’t meant to look like anyone else’s because you aren’t like anyone else. You’re a person all your own with a unique set of goals, obstacles, dreams, and needs. So stop comparing, and start living. You may not have ended up where you intended to go. But trust, for once, that you have ended up where you needed to be. Trust that you are in the right place at the right time. Trust that your life is enough. Trust that you are enough. — Daniell Koepke

Then, some words I wrote a while back:

True contentment is learning how to live with less than wanting more; by giving away from what you have in abundance rather than acquiring more and accepting and being satisfied with what you have, instead of resenting the things you don’t have.

There are times when I realize that I have been blessed with so much; and yet there are other times when I feel as though what I have or do not have doesn’t compare with what others have. My goal is to learn to be content, no matter my circumstances. Rich or poor, wealthy or indigent, job or no job. I can learn something every day through every trial and circumstance.

Remember not to compare myself to others, for that leads to feeling less than what I am. What I am is sufficient for where I am, always.

Whatever I have, wherever I am, whatever I am able to do, I have been richly blessed. Learn to accept it, embrace it, and enjoy it.

It’s not a contest. Just because someone has something you wish you had, or is doing something you wish you could do, you don’t have to “keep up with the Joneses.” He/she who dies with the most toys doesn’t necessarily “win.” And you can’t move forward if you keep looking at what someone else, or everyone else has and continually find yourself wanting, or lacking in any way.

Just something that from time to time, I need to keep in mind…

12 Replies to “It’s Not A Contest”

      1. It’s Good morning from me today. When I read your piece, I was reminded of a conversation with a friend where we we were talking about how we’d depict our lives in a picture drawing or image. Her instant response was that she would draw a river, mine would be a train. So, yes we do each have our own journeys. I’ve always tried to set my own compass but I guess in the main, people like to belong and competing is part of that need to belong. Coming from a very unequal society, there is much more I could say – that’s why I say – a conversation piece in itself:-)

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      2. You raise some interesting points, Chevvy. And yes, it is driven by a need to belong: to a community, or group, or just to someone. And at the same time, you have to be able to function on your own, and be fine with who you are. Love your comment, it is food for thought.

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      3. Thank you T. I guess we talk about this kind of thing all the time with our friends and colleagues because we’re a very diverse society. Nevertheless, I also heard what you were saying. There is a point at which you should say you are enough, you have enough … but it’s great to exchange perspectives this way. We’ve had a gorgeous day in the sun with friends, probably the last really warm day before Autumn really kicks in. Hope your day has been pleasant!

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      4. Yes, I did respond to your comment but don’t worry about it. Hope you’ve had a good day. We had a gorgeous sunshine day with friends and I suspect that’s the last of them since everyone’s back at work tomorrow and Autumn is upon us:-)

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