As my regular readers know, every Friday I pick a song or several songs for a Flashback Friday post. This week, I’ve given another blogger a chance to tell us about a song that has a deeper meaning in relation to someone from her past. This week, Elissa from the Embracing My Inner Ginger blog takes a turn on the mic for a really touching story. Let me get out of the way and let her tell you all about it…
When someone leaves you, as in forever, as in leaves this earth, you never truly get over it. In fact, sometimes the longer they are gone from your presence, the more you realize how much they really meant to you. The more important they become and sometimes you realize just how much they have really impacted your life. I mean, made a lasting impression. That was KC.
KC aka Kevin, was a friend back in junior high and high school. He was there the day I met my son’s father. In fact, he was the one who drove me there. He would hang out after school, a whole group of us, and many nights he would come over for dinner.
We were friends through high school, going to school dances together with our dates, driving around or hanging out at the basketball courts. After high school we went our separate ways for a bit, but years later, and a life changing car accident for Kev that would leave him semi-quadriplegic, friendship would bring us back together before he parted this world, but not without leaving his mark forever ingrained on our hearts and memories.
In high school, Kev was 6’3” and loved to play basketball and crack jokes. Even after his accident I remember being out with him for karaoke one night and running into an old classmate that told Kev he looked familiar but there was something different about him. Of course Kev just laughed and said in his KC way, “Well…I’m a little shorter than I was
back then.” As he looked up from his wheelchair. He always had a way of making you feel like your minuscule problems were just as big and frustrating as his. “It’s all relative”, is one of the quotes I remember him saying quite a bit. But what I remember most about him is his true, genuine friendship. He was the kind of guy who would do favors for you without asking for anything in return. He was the guy I could call if I was in tears and frustrated or spend hours on the phone with, laughing until I couldn’t breathe.
Lately I have really been reviewing and reevaluating my friendships and relationships in general, including my relationship with myself. I have been thinking about people that I have let in my life who didn’t deserve my friendship or didn’t respect my boundaries. The people that disrespected me, manipulated me and lied to me. It got me thinking about true friends and Kevin came to mind. I really started thinking about the qualities he had and what kind of friend he was.
I was driving in to work this morning when I heard Leona Lewis’s song, “Better in Time”. Music has a way of bringing back memories, especially when it’s attached to those we love. Although it’s probably considered a love song, this is one of my songs for Kevin. When I hear this song it makes me think of him. The chorus says,
Thought I couldn’t live without you
It’s gonna hurt when it heals too
It’ll all get better in time
And even though I really love you
I’m gonna smile cause I deserve to
It’ll all get better in time
It doesn’t really get better in time. We just learn to move on, adjust and accept changes. We find ways to push through and keep going. We remember the good times that made us laugh, or the words of wisdom our friend shared years ago, never knowing that one day those words would mean so much more. This song may have brought tears to my eyes this morning as I longed for another moment in time with my friend, but it reminds me of all the times we laughed together too. It reminds me that even though he’s not physically here with me he would encourage me to smile because I deserve to.
I want to thank T. Wayne for asking me to be a guest blogger, but even more so I would like to thank him for helping me remember my friend Kevin. RIP KC
The pleasure is all mine, Elissa! Such a great story…and a good song too!
Thanks again Elissa, for being my second Guest DJ! Please offer your comments on Elissa’s selection and her story below and be sure to take a look at her blog, if you don’t already follow her. I think you’ll like what you find. If you would like to guest post on a Flashback Friday, please let me know at firstname.lastname@example.org or @mindpinball on Twitter. There are no restrictions as to genre, style or type of music you can present; you can pick one or several songs to feature.
Enjoy your Friday, and as always, thanks for reading and listening!