Flashback Friday: Joy And Pain

This wasn’t going to be the Flashback Friday song for today. It also wasn’t going to be posting so late today either. I had plans to use “In The Club” by 50 Cent. The reason I was going to use it was because this Sunday is my birthday. It isn’t just any birthday either. It’s my 50th birthday. I am going to a baseball game tonight with my daughters (it was their Father’s Day gift, that I’m sure is going to turn into a birthday gift). Tomorrow, my friends and I are heading “downy ocean hon” (in Maryland-ese, that means to Ocean City, Maryland) and going to a club and spending the night there. The club part of the trip is why 50 Cent was going to be the choice.

But after this week, with two African-American men shot and killed by police officers, and then several policemen killed in Dallas, I thought that “Joy And Pain” by Maze Featuring Frankie Beverly was a better choice.

When I think about the past week, I marvel at the fact that I’m still here to be able to see a fiftieth birthday. Alton Sterling and Philando Castile are Black men that won’t get to see a 50th birthday. And retaliation with violence against police is not the answer. We need to realize that hate is gaining in this country. It’s all too easy to use violence to solve our issues. And violence from police against blacks is disturbing, to say the least. These officers who use bad judgment are bringing down the whole lot of officers, many of whom do a good job and “protect and serve” as they should. It’s just that, of the ones that aren’t doing the job rightโ€”if your job is to protect and serve, who protects and serves for us?

We all have to be better. It’s time for the good people of this country to take our country back. From those that would divide us based on race. From those who would divide us based on what we claim to be. From those who would rather watch us kill each other than to come up with solutions to the really tough problems. From former Congressmen declaring war on the President of the United States and the Black Lives Matter movement. Let’s get real here: if All Lives Mattered, would we need a Black Lives Matter movement? I’m betting the answer is no. Because if all lives mattered, life wouldn’t be snuffed out by guns and violence at such an alarming rate. If all lives mattered, traffic stops wouldn’t become murder scenes. If all lives mattered,ย a man being held down on the ground by two police officers wouldn’t end up dead. If all lives mattered, those Dallas policemen would have made it home to their families and loved ones. Remember, an eye for an eye leaves everyone blind.

The song isn’t the real point of this post, and I’m sure I’m rambling on about issues that have no concrete solutions. The song is what I’m feeling today: joy at my upcoming birthday, and pain for the past three days of killings. This cannot continue; a house divided against itself cannot stand.

Enjoy the Flashback Friday song of the day, and as always, thanks for reading and listening.

20 Replies to “Flashback Friday: Joy And Pain”

  1. Despite the happenings in the world, I’m sending you celebratory birthday vibes and wishing you and your friends a SAFE and fun filled weekend. I’ll be turning it up next year for my 50th so you’ll have to let me know how things turn out – set a good example and all ;-).

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    1. Thank you Kara, for the compliment on the post, and for the early birthday wishes! If your birthday is on the way, happy early birthday to you too! If I missed it, happy belated birthday!

      And apologies for the comment appearing so late ๐Ÿ˜ฆ


  2. Hi Twin:

    This is spot on Twin and it needed to be said. I am sorry that it had to cloud such a milestone birthday though.
    I guess I had to add that I agree with you about the whole Black Lives Matters things. Here’s the point, based on past and present cases of police officers murdering black men; it appears that there are MANY people who have no regard for Black lives; that said, it is important to reiterate that Black lives matter too–just like everybody else. THATS THE POINT!
    I was just telling another blogger, who agreed with me, that people are full of shit when they point to black on black crime–to me that is merely a distraction: “Hey look at the birdie, watch the little birdie” so I can get you to shut up talking about how police are getting away with murder.
    Now, you and I both know that black on black crime is a huge issue that does need to be resolved but as Jessie Williams said, if you haven’t been working on a solution for it you need to sit your ass down somewhere! Okay, he didn’t exactly say that….but you know what I mean. Statistics show that people are more likely to be killed by someone they know or are involved with so, as I said to this blogger, blacks kill more black, whites kill more whites, and indians kill more indians and so on and so forth.

    It is nerve wrecking as hell to be or love a black man these days; fear is rampant! There is not a black mama, wife ,sister, aunt etc of a black man in the US that is not sitting on freaking pins and needles! Just plain scared!

    End of Rant!

    Sorry T. But I had to say my peace!
    Thank you for always being the rational voice on these blogs! You do it intelligently and eloquently!

    Enjoy your weekend!

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    1. First of all, don’t ever apologize for saying your piece! Especially when your piece needs to be said!

      I agree with you 100%; it’s just that Black lives (and lives of color) seem to matter a lot less than white ones. But if every life mattered, there would be no stratification, because every life would be valued. That is why the Black Lives Matter movement exists at all.

      Thanks for the birthday wishes, I am hoping to have a great time!

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      1. It was incredible and filled with peace and โค , just the way I wished for it to be…never turned on the news until this morning….sometimes I like my bubble, but it's not realistic…..so sad the state of the world…hoping for peace, love and better days for all. Lots of prayers too. Thanks so much ๐Ÿ™‚

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