Seems Like Such A Funny Thing To Talk About

If you’ve ever been in a relationship, you’re probably familiar with what today’s Morning Groove is talking about. When the relationship begins, things seem to be great. But as time moves on, things begin to change. Maybe he spends too much time at the job. Maybe she isn’t as loving as he thinks she should be. Disagreements, financial problems, issues with children, perhaps a lack of intimacy—the list goes on. Time begins to draw a wedge between two people who thought they would be together forever and find themselves drifting apart. So one asks the other the question that forms the title of today’s featured song: “Is It Still Good To Ya?”

That Ashford & Simpson classic is today’s Morning Groove.

I’m no relationship guru, but in addition to good communication, it also is important to be present with your partner. The story being told in this song finds the protagonists missing the little things that used to happen routinely in their relationship. Perhaps both partners have neglected each other to the point that it seems difficult to get back to being mindful of, and for, the other. Which brings them to the need to ask if the relationship (or each other) is still good to, or for the other one.

Sometimes, a song chooses me for the Morning Groove and this is one of those times. What happened was I was thinking of “Ain’t No Mountain High Enough,” a song written by today’s artists (Nikolas Ashford & Valerie Simpson). I was thinking about how that song became a hit twice in two distinctly different versions: one in a duet with Marvin Gaye & Tammi Terrell; the other by Diana Ross. While I was thinking about that, my thoughts turned to some of Ashford & Simpson’s songs. First was “Solid,” their biggest hit and only Pop top 20 song of their career. Then came this song, and I thought about how it truly applies to relationships.

Because I’m not in one at the moment, I’d like to think I can look at this a bit more as an outsider now, than I could if I was in the middle of it. I was in the middle of it, years ago, but I didn’t see it then like I can now. How each one believed that the other was the only one they ever wanted. How their touch thrilled their partners to no end. How things changed as the years went on. How those little kisses at the beginning and end of each day disappeared because there were other things that just had to be dealt with or focused on. How it eventually ended.

Even so, this is one of many great songs that Ashford & Simpson wrote. If all they did was write and produce at Motown; or be known for giving Ray Charles his first big hit after he kicked his heroin habit (“Let’s Go Get Stoned”), they would be in the top class of songwriters. That those Marvin & Tammi duets they wrote have stood the test of time make them songwriting legends. They weren’t too shabby writing and performing the songs themselves either. Who knows? Maybe they asked each other this question during the course of their marriage.

I hope you enjoy today’s Morning Groove. If you are in a relationship, you might want to think about whether or not it is still good to you, once you hear these words. As always, thanks for listening and reading.

Just for kicks, here are the lyrics:

Is It Still Good To Ya

By Ashford & Simpson

Been a long time since you touched me
And made me feel that wonderful glow the way you do
Been a long time since you held me and squeezed me
So I wonder what’s come over you

I don’t know if I oughta bring it up
Seems like such a funny thing to talk about
Don’t know if it’s right to do
Nowhere to turn to, ooh, I’m up against the wall

And I wanna know

Is it still good to ya?
Does it feel alright?
Is it still good to ya?
Will you prove it tonight?

Been a long time since you asked me how was my day
And kissed me before I could say
Been a long time since you told me if things could change
You wouldn’t have it no other way

And I don’t know if I oughta bring it up
It seems like such a funny thing to talk about
I don’t know if it’s right to do
But I don’t wanna bug you and ooh, I’m up against the wall

And I wanna know
(Give it to me straight now)
I wanna know
(No need to hesitate)
I wanna know, know

Is it still good to ya?
Does it feel
(Does it feel)
Alright?
(Does it feel, does it feel alright?)

Is it still good to ya
(To you)
Will you prove it tonight
(Prove it to me, yeah)

Is it still good to ya? Is it good?
Is it still good to ya? Is it good?
Is it still good to ya? Is it good?
Is it still good to ya? Is it good?

Songwriters: NICKOLAS ASHFORD, VALERIE SIMPSON

© Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC

For non-commercial use only.

7 Replies to “Seems Like Such A Funny Thing To Talk About”

  1. BAYBEEEEEEE!
    When I read that lyric I knew immediately what time it was! YAAAASSSS!
    Ashford and Simpson, “Is it still good to ya?”
    I simply CANNOT!
    What a sweet and poignant post Twin! You have given us something to think or rethink about with regards to our relationships. Thanks for this!

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    1. Thanks, Twin! I will readily admit, when I came up with the idea of how I was going to write this one, I had my doubts that I could pull it off. But when I finally finished it, I remember saying, “this isn’t half bad!”

      I know Teddy Pendergrass made a version of this song also, but I don’t like his anywhere near as much as I like this one. I think having an actual husband and wife sing the song just makes it better and more believable. I would have loved to ask them (and can’t now that Nick Ashford is gone) if they really asked that question about their own relationship at any point. Apparently they worked it out if it was a true-life situation; they were married for over 30 years!

      Again, thanks so much for the kind words!

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      1. You pulled it off brah and in high style!
        I would imagine that songwriting was very therapeutic for their relationship!
        I read that he wrote the words and she composed the music. Isn’t that interesting considering the sensitivity of the lyrics. I don’t mean to imply that men can’t write like that; it’s just something you don’t really see as much.
        You have that talent Twin!

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  2. A great piece of writing indeed Tracy. I haven’t listened to this song in a while and I was reminded in listening to it how sensitively it is delivered. It’s a good question to ask in terms of relationships and even more broadly – where you’re going with your life. I’m in that phase myself so I’m taking time out. When I’m ready, I’ll be back on the blog. Take care and have fun in the meanwhile. Best. Chevvy.💐

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